I LOVE, LOVE!!! How do you feel about love? I think "love at first sight" is real, I know long time love is real. I think that there is a soulmate out there for you. The sad thing is that it is sometimes not the person that you are married to. NOW please don't blast me, I said sometimes.
Know what love really is. Love for me is when there is a person who will be ride or die for your. Will hang up the phone when you walk in the room and give you all the attention that you deserve. When you sick they will do the cooking and cleaning. When the love is unconditional and will not bring your past in your face, in the future. Love is when life hits hard that, that person will be there and comfort you in any storm that comes. Love is not 50, 50; love is 100% of you.
The NLT Bible states Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a treasure and he receives favor from the Lord. So may question is. Have you found your good thing? Whether man or woman? Have you left your hurt behind? Have you healed from the last relationship so that you can find your true love?
Healing.. lets talk about it? Have your healed so you don't bleed on your new relationship? Stop jumping around from person to person trying to find the "right one" until you have spoken that bad relationship name without getting mad.
Marriage... it is said, you are only to get married once? Well for some, they are on their 5th marriage.
Reason unknown or denial. Unknown because they don't know or denial because they do not want to admit they played a big part in it. I am not talking about domestic violence or an abusive, toxic relationship. I am talking about, it just did not work for whatever reason.
Sex.. is not a bad word. Please be educated on it and know your body and your partners as well. Know when her cycle starts and ends. Know that you have to clean his foreskin (if he still has it) before and after you have sex. If he/she does not know what to do to please, please teach them. Tell them what you like and how you like it. Some like bondage (i am not the one) and you feel comfortable, then go for it, but please have a safety word, we do not want you to go to prison for having a consensual good time. Sex is stated to be only for reproducing, but you have to have some fun in it and I am not talking about taking it against someones will. Again that is a prison sentence. Experiment, go outside of your box, try something different, you may like it. Do not feel ashamed of who you are. Sex is healthy and can be fun. Because when you in love, you know their body, you know how to please them, so that you can get pleasure as well. Don't be selfish and you have an orgasm and they have not not. Finished what you started. Sex is awesome when done correctly. If you not trying to have children, protect yourself with some kind of birth control (abstinence may be the key), Females, put the condom on him, you just killed took care of your foreplay and your protection. Make sure he don't take it off.. you hold it. Male don't fall for it, she may be protected from pregnancy, but not from disease. Educate yourself, ask question, it may help both of you. But if the sex is good and the attitude of the character is crazy, then get you some and leave. Make you sure that all parties involve know what the sex is all around. Tell them before your kiss whether is a one night stand, i am trying to get to know you or hit it and quit it or you are the real one. Do not experiment with someone and you end up in prison or dead.
Know your person before you put that ring on your finger. Be brutally honest with that person that you say you love, even it hurts. To me there is the relationship, engagement and then marriage. Within the relationship, there is enough time to figure out who and what this person is all about. If you break up during the relationship and the engagement, then counseling is needed. Marriage Counseling is so important. The counselor will give you questions, that you did not think of. Exercises that will assist you in making your decision. If there is something wrong, mentally, physically, financially then stop, think and DON'T DO IT!!! Stop this off and on thing and wasting people's time. There is nothing wrong with being alone.
On that note, single is not a bad word. Don't allow anyone to pressure you into marriage, male or female. If you are not married, it is not a curse. Please do not marry her if she is pregnant, it is not honorable, because you will come to resent her and hate yourself for what you have done. I am not an expect, but I have enough people in my life to know. Just make sure it's your kid and take care of that baby and don't give the mother a hard time. Mothers allow fathers to see their children, if they do not want to be with you, do not use the children as pawns.
I love love if it is done right, what is right, there is no answer. But what I can tell you is there is no mental, physical and emotional abuse, there is no off and on relationship, there is no cheating physical or virtual. there is only you two with honesty, trust, communication and laughter.
Love you first, so that someone else can love you.
